Facts Sheet: Shelley Chdhry

Hello everyone, posting on this group as one of my friends really need your valuable advise. She is a Muslim and has been in a relationship with a Hindu man since 8 years. They are not married or engaged yet but thinking of getting married soon. When they met 8 years ago, he promised to her he will convert to Islam for her. However, as years have passed, things have changed. I have four questions for you guys. Please post your thoughts and feelings here as we need to see what others think as well because she is way too much emotionally and mentally attached to the guy and is desperate to marry him desperate all the below: 1. He says when he promised to convert, he was too young (He was 19). Now he has grown up and feels that yes, he is happy to follow Islam as well as Hinduism. He doesn't want to let go of his aLord Shiva. He now says that when they have kids the kids should follow both Islam and Hinduism and given a choice to choose , and only Islam should not be imposed on the kids. He says he will pretend in front of her parents that he is a Muslim 100 percent so they can get married. Can they get married? Should they marry deceiving parents? Would she burn in hell because she married a guy who didn't think Allah was the only God and and of the kids followed Hinduism? 2. Secondly, the girls parents are here to visit her from overseas for 2 months. The guy went for Friday prayers twice with her dad. So the girls dad has been insisting and telling the guy to meet him for 4-6 hours a week so he can teach him some prayers and tell more about Islam. Now the guy at this stage is going through a lot in terms of job and business and he is going through a hard time. So he is irritated and moody and sort of struggling with life. In terms of career this is the hardest part of his career. The guy screams at the girl saying why is your dad asking me to learn prayers as he feels it's not important to pray, according to the guy, the only thing that's important is that we should help poor and needy. So basically he has been screaming at the girl why is your dad forcing me to do stuff I don't want to. Do you think this is right? I mean yes the guy is going through a hard time but the parents are here just for two months and they want to finalise this proposal and make sure he is a convert and he is not taking out time for this and instead fighting with the girl that why is your dad pushing me to do these religious things? 3. He also keeps telling the girl that the parents should not interfere in their lives or when they have kids and stuff how right is this? 4. The guy is nice in the aspect that he will let her travel to see parents and siblings and buy them gifts and stuff and care for them genuinely. However, here is the issue. The girl also sends money home. Around 1500-2000$ a month because she works full time and her parents need it for basic needs. Their financial situation is not good. And the guy(her partner) is perfectly fine with it. But what the girl doesn't like is that he keeps telling her that your parents needs to realise I'm the best guy for you as I ALLOW you to send money home. She's confused as this is what she earns herself, she is not sending the guys money, and she is still contributing 2000$ to hers and the guys budget in Australia. How right is he in saying this? Thank you so much for reading all this she's my best friend and I really need advise for her and she needs it more than anything. Like Show More Reactions Comment 47 47 Comments 53 of 192 View previous comments Taha Usman Omar Tariq Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 18 hrs Remove 2 Replies · 18 hrs Haris Hassan peace everyone :3 Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 2 · 18 hrs Remove Abid Mehmood If religion was a concern than that lady should not landed in this situation I think the man will pull out as if he wants to accept islam than he will anyways with or without the lady...See more Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 3 · 18 hrs Remove Muhammad Wajahat Kamil Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 7 · 18 hrs Remove Arslan Malik Haha very serious , she been in relationship for 8 years so why she thinks of islam now !!!!! I would say she already did what she was not suppose to do . now don't use the name of Islam just be yourself Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 5 · 18 hrs Remove Omar Tariq try a beef buffet in the marriage ceremony 😆 Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 9 · 18 hrs Remove 3 Replies · 18 hrs Omar Tariq Hassan Tariq Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 18 hrs Remove Wajid Kanwal These guys didn't ask before getting into the relationship so why ask now. Plus looks like the guy is heading towards the path of domestic violence . So tell the girl to wake up and smell the coffee. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 5 · 18 hrs · Edited Remove Nauman Ahmed Girl is with him for 8 years she knew what she was getting into, sorry but this is a no brainer she has to leave him since he's not holding up his part of the deal and the resulting relationship can never survive longterm! Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 18 hrs Remove Zarrin Seema Siddiqui I think it is a very perosnal issue. A relationship counsellor will help them to understand the implications and consequences. They are both adults and we are neither judges nor freinds to provide any advice. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 3 · 18 hrs Remove View 1 reply Write a reply... Qandeel Noor Abbasi I suggest you to ask some religious scholar.as this is the very sensitive issue. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 18 hrs Remove Muhammad Hammad Khan " will she burn in hell " hahaha that is an outrageous perspective. If she is concerned about the validity and credibility of her actions from an Islamic perspective, you and everyone else concerned should consult an Islamic Scholar and make due to Allah for guidance,,, not ask for opinions here,, it doesnt matter what the masses think in this regard, people are not gate keepers of righteousness. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 4 · 18 hrs Remove Zaid Bin Khalid Usaid Hasan Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 17 hrs Remove Tabish Chaudhry Simple, short and clear .. GET RID OF HIM .. It's not going to be work anymore.. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 17 hrs · Edited Remove Danyal Yousaf Stop her from doing so . She will regret if done . Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 17 hrs Remove Aroosa Mushtaq Girl. You need to post this problem in some other group like soul sisters, etc. Because firstly, people are not tolerant enough to think in your friends shoes. Then, every muslim would be happy to here that the guy is converting, but if that were your friend, I'm sure nobody would have been pleased to hear that. So, basically lack of empathy. Please please seek advice from some place neutral. Otherwise people will only bash her or her boyfriend. Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry · Reply · 4 · 17 hrs Remove View all 11 replies Write a reply... HuXein ChaFoo oooo shelly chodhry it looks like that they have been get married already.so why are you asking for shit recomendation?As she has crossed all boundaries before Nikah..why are you wasting our time?..Admin should delete this post.Block these type of posts Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 3 · 13 hrs · Edited Remove 1 Reply Syed Shaz Dukaan ka iftitah hogaya hoga saalon pehle he aur ribbon bhi kat gaya hoga lakin dukan rent pe li thi us larkay ne, khareedi nahi thi. Ab dukaan ki milkiyat lene ki bari ai tou woh bhaag raha hai. Bibi masti khud kari aur ab yahan akar demagh baki doston ka kharab kar rahe ho. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 17 hrs Remove Aiysha Mubashir I am not sure what project she is contribiting to monthly but I am sure once the project ends the relationship will not exist. She is earning good enough to contribute to the budget and send to her parents. So if she can revaluate him based on past experiences she will reach a wise decisioN. its a bit disappointing when a Muslim girl enters relation with Hindu so yes I am sure the parents have lacked basic cultural and religious education. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 2 · 17 hrs Remove Zulqurnein Ahmed Bhatti Only Hell for both...😁 Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 2 · 17 hrs Remove 1 Reply Melody Madhu If both are religious minded..its better to marry in their own religions..love grows thru years of bonding..at this stage before marriage..only the strong will works..marriage is a separate institution...but if both r theist...God or related matters will come in their way sooner or later.. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 2 · 17 hrs Remove Kazmi Awais Miss Madhu, Islam does not allow relations with any man/woman before marriage in the first place. Secondly there is no concept of "inter-faith marriage" in Islam. The marriage becomes null and void if any of the partner abandons Islam. She should have ...See more Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 13 hrs Remove Write a reply... M. Rizwan Shirazi Guyz don't just send anyone to hell and don't try and make a judgement. Try and give a rational suggestion. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 17 hrs Remove 1 Reply Vazie Jani After 8 years.. her brain got active when lust has almost over... but finally she thought about it.. good on her.. If she knows islam even a little islam.she should quit and ask forgiveness from Allah for her sinful act Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 16 hrs Remove Sardar Khalid Ali Dogar According to the Islamic rules and regulations this marriage will not accepted in islam until that guy will not accept islam . He have to leave the hinduizam and accept the islam by his heart . As for as the circumstances whic is explained in this pos...See more Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 16 hrs Remove 8 Replies · 13 hrs Sardar Khalid Ali Dogar I can guide here properly . Please in box me your contact details. Jazakmullaho khair . Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 16 hrs Remove Mohsin Naveed Sulehri lol I wonder how someone can write this long for a friend or specifically a fckn indian Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 16 hrs Remove 2 Replies · 15 hrs Saifuddin Syed Quit this relationship is the best option. This guy already betray his commitment. Start screaming and already start thinking about children religion. He may force you to leave Islam or at-least do Puja in front of his parent. Allowing the girl to send money to parent is nothing, its a her earned money. Again "Quit This Relationship" as soon as possible. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 16 hrs Remove 1 Reply Muhammad Talha Kamil آج نہیں تو کل اس لڑکی کےابا کو پتا چل جائیگا کہ لونڈا فُل ٹوپی باز ہے اور پھر کُٹ مار کر اُسے گھر سے باہر نکال دینگے، پھر وہ لڑکا کہیگا کہ "مجھے کیوں نکالا، کیوں نکالا؟؟ Like Like Love Haha Wow Sad Angry · Reply · 7 · 16 hrs Remove 2 Replies · 14 hrs Tanveer Ahmed May Allah protect her Emaan Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 16 hrs Remove Muhammad Asif Just leave this guy ask forgiveness from Allah and forget your past start new life Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 16 hrs Remove Nouman Qureshi This is fitna. Please be advised Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 15 hrs Remove Fayyaz Alam Answer is simple: How much she loves him? Does she love him more than Islam? Then she can go ahead as her religion is secondary for her. Why do something out of social pressure if your conscience is accepting that? Second, if he doesn't want to convert...See more Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 5 · 15 hrs · Edited Remove 1 Reply Sarmad Ali Find another person preferably practicing muslim but major problem arises when he/she does not involve parents or elders into it. On the other hand love after marriage is the eternal before marriage is lust. According to my understsnding and reading th...See more Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 14 hrs · Edited Remove 1 Reply Ahmed Zahid Leaving the religion and differences aside, this can work with mutual understanding and co-operation. Obviously, it's easy for a guy to say that he's changed but equally difficult to follow all the rituals and convince Pakistani parents. He doesn't see...See more Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 15 hrs Remove Ahsan Babar muslim larkon ki kami thi kya jo us ne apna emaan kharab kia aur non-Muslim se relation banaya Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 15 hrs Remove 1 Reply Sajjad Ur Rehman The girl is more emmotinally and mentally into this guy but he is only using her until they get in to the bond of marriage. I think, this kind of situation will turn out to be the worst one after they both get in a legal relationship. Boy has deceive...See more Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 15 hrs · Edited Remove Umar Awan Aroosa Mushtaq, don't advise Shelley chdhry to be neutral. You are Muslim and you should keep your faith in good health. It's very basic thing if she marry to non Muslim, it will not be a marriage, rather it will be Zana. Don't advise the things that could lead to sins. Other things and needs comes later Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 14 hrs Remove 4 Replies · 13 hrs MoaZam ShahZad Feeling pity for that girl, but any way it would be better if the guy will revert properly by heart because he needs to find True GOD rather than confusing their kids later on and the only way to find the True GOD is comparing teachings and scripture ...See more Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 14 hrs · Edited Remove Umar Awan Ahmed Zahid, what you think , will it be marriage or zina without being converted to Islam Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 14 hrs Remove 1 Reply Mehar Ghani You should consult an Islamic scholar Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 14 hrs · Edited Remove Umar Awan Shelley Chdhry, it will be zina, not a marriage with being guys converted to Islam. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 14 hrs Remove Vicky Johan i read all comments and i agree with the peoples "after 8 years she realize" :D Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 14 hrs Remove Kazmi Awais Please give her my messsge: "اب کیوں اُداس پھرتے ہو سردیوں کی شاموں میں؛ اس طرح تو ہوتا ہے اس طرح کے کاموں میں"...See more Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 13 hrs Remove Muhammad Wajahat Kamil Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 2 · 13 hrs Remove Kazmi Awais Jokes apart, even if a Muslim couple is married with Nikkah and his/her spouse abandons Islam, their Nikkah automatically breaks as per Islamic Sharia. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 13 hrs Remove Kazmi Awais So, she is confused on the last drink of wine that whether wine is Halal or Haram. Ask her to drink this last cup too. No need to think of good and bad now after 8 years. She is living with him under one roof like husband and wife already, what else she wants to think about after 8 years?? Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 1 · 13 hrs · Edited Remove Talha Alam Kazmi sb. This means k kabhi koi sahi hona chahay tu na ho? We should be encouraging and providing every ounce of help ! Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 2 · 13 hrs Remove 7 Replies · 13 hrs Farhan Hassan It's haram if she does marry with him without converting to Islam. And he is not accepting Islam and she must face lots of problems after marry him. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 13 hrs Remove 1 Reply Ali Kashif Is for a Muslim Women to marry a Christian/Hindu Men forbidden (HARAM) in Islam Dr Zakir Naik, She must listen this from Dr Zakir Naik, She will get perfect answer, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dL67WIyy_uk Is for a Muslim Women to marry a Christian Men forbidden… youtube.com Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 13 hrs · Edited Remove 2 Replies · 13 hrs Shelley Chdhry Hello everyone, first of all, THANK YOU. A BIG BIG THANK YOU. First of all, I am a pakistani female living in Melbourne. I post a lot of stuff on different pages for my friends who want to stay anonymous. And I just want to say that I really really appreciate all your responses. I really did not expect such an overwhelming response, and I am so grateful to each and every one of you . I am still going through each one of your replies. Please know that each one of you who has responded has helped my best friend. She really needed to see and hear this from so so so many people. She thought what I was telling her and what people were telling her was wrong. But she cannot deny was 130+ of you have commented here. I am so so thankful to each one of you for your rprecious time and helping a sister in need towards to right direction. I hope she understands through these comments what she is doin is wrong, and I will be with her at each step. I will be showing everything to her tomorrow. Massive thank you to each one of you. May Allah bless you abundantly. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 13 hrs Remove M Shah Zaib this place is not to ask such questions Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 13 hrs Hafeez Shaikh @Khayyam Shaikh, I'm sharing this with you as the story is ineresting and raises lot of issues. It has generated a good deal of discussion. Some people write their comments faster than speed of light. Enjoy. Like Show More Reactions · Reply · 13 hrs Talha Alam Its best if u can copy the responses and delete the post from here. Or restrict commenting on this post. I personally feel now she is getting ridiculed unnecessarily. You've got what u came for.